Heat oil in a large skillet over medium-high. Cook asparagus, tossing often, until stalks are bright green, blistered in spots, and tender, about 5 minutes. Season with salt and transfer to a platter.
Stir chile, soy sauce, lime juice, honey, sesame oil, and ginger in a small bowl to combine. Mix in peanuts and coconut and spoon over asparagus.
